Thanks to those who named me on the recent Friends Awards meme that went around. I wasn’t ignoring anyone, just haven’t had a lot of time or energy for blogging.
So Bethie, PK and Radha, your mentions were definitely appreciated and you would certainly have been on mine had I not been such a party pooper. You all remind me that this community is full of such intelligent and lovely women and I am honoured to number myself among you.
I came across a fantastic saying over at Green Rootsdown that struck a chord with me especially for what I am going through at the moment.
Don’t be concerned about being disloyal to your pain by being joyous.
There are times when I feel almost guilty for being happy, certainly guilty for wanting to find freedom and a more fulfilling life. It is in my own head this guilt and something only I can deal with. I do what I can and certainly try to find the best in the situation but sometimes the pain gets the better of me. I prefer to be joyous, prefer to find happiness and peace in my daily life. It is good to be reminded that finding joy doesn’t mean I haven’t felt the pain over the last 8 months of my separation or that it meant nothing but that it doesn’t have to hold me in thrall forever. That it is okay to hurt but also okay to work past that and live again.
Lastly, I wanted to say good luck to Paul who will soon be going in for surgery on cataracts. Thanks PK for letting us know. I wish you all the best Paul and hope to see you again before long but only when you are well enough.
Dear Mina,
I can relate to that sense of guilt when being cheerful when you feel you should be sad, as if you were disrespectful to the pain and the sorrow. It is good advice to try not to think that way. You deserve every bit of happiness and cheerfulness you can find.
A great big hug for you…or many
Janice
Mina,
You are wise to realize being happy and finding joy is always good for you and those around you. But I do understand the guilt too. I’m glad you blog when you can I like to hear that my friends are happy.
Keep writing,
Hugs,
PK
Dear Mina
I am confuddled.
So it is possible to feel guilt whilst offering someone, that which they really want? Yeah, I guess so.
Please do not think that, where I am concerned.
And to all other Readers, if you want to spank and meet someone that wants to be spanked, or vice versa, just say Cheers.
As I do every time Mina spanks me.
Knocks the spots off Missionary!
With Love
FXXX
The metaphor that comes to mind is eyesight. We see nothing — literally — if our eyes are unable to make their constant, rapid shifts. Moods are like that — we feel nothing except contrast & movement.
Mixed emotions can make a tangy stew. My emotions are always mixed — and I try to stir up my partner’s. Imagine making love without the alternating thrust & withdrawal. Imagine a paddling without a cuddle!
Regards,
Wystan
Janice, thank you and I will find both cheer and happiness again soon. Many hugs always appreciated.
PK, I am happy some of the time but life is getting much better.
F, yes it is still possible to feel guilt in such a situation as you describe, but that wasn’t what I was talking about here. Still, it is good to know that I hit the mark…so to speak.
Wystan, I prefer my emotions to be more balanced but I do see your point.
Hugs for all
Mina