A friend and I were recently discussing spanking, no surprise there I imagine, and he used the word ‘beat’ in place of spank. Strangely enough I find the word quite harsh. I don’t think of it as beating someone, though he pointed out it was still correct.
I suppose beat seems like something you would do to someone as a cruelty, something that is non-consensual rather than related to a mutually agreed activity. Of course that isn’t the case since it is just a word. Yet, it is interesting how different words can have a differing affect on the psyche.
To help me with this issue my friend sent me various other words I might use instead of beat and some of them gave me a good chuckle.
Synonyms: belt, blip, box, buffet, cane, chastise, clobber, clout, cuff, flax, flog, hide, larrup*, lash, lather*, leather*, lick, paddle, punch, punish, put over one’s knee, smack, sock, tan*, tan one’s hide, thrash, trim, wallop, welt, whip, whup
Watch out boys or I might ‘blip’ you! Don’t think too many would be scared of that. Chastise is nice though.
Hi Mina:
It is very interesting how words can create a feeling or give a subtext. For me spank or spanking is associated with the bottom, where as beat or beating for me is associated with the whole body.
I do like the word lick from your list tho.
Take care,
Andrades Girl
Mina,
I think the word “spank” is just so supercharged! Beat, on the other hand, sounds violent and cruel to me. I did have a relative who would consistently say she was going to beat up her child, and that sounded even worse than just plain beat. She really meant spank; it was just her way of speaking.
I\ve never heard of “trim”.
Hugs,
Hermione
Hi Mina,
I like the word beat when i’m writing about an instance where I’ve been a bad girl. Something about the word in the context of marriage is really hot to me…although this came up when I read someone else talk about her dislike of the word, that’s what prompted me to think about it.
What’s with “buffet” – seeing that one makes me hungry!
love,
Radha
Mina, I had a teacher who gave his pupils a good licking rather than a spanking.
Synonyms, are interesting.
Love and warm hugs,
Paul.
What a whupping walloping or whatever. Words are fantastic although I would, of course, complicate things by saying that they don’t have meaning, as such, but just forget that and keep on the paddling and licking and whatnot.
Thanks for a cracking blogpost…with knobs on (if that is the way to spell it). Tallyho and go and get your canes and belts and things.
No, I am not drunk but maybe in need of a corrective blip…giggles.
Hugs
Janice
I have always been interested in ’spanking’ words. Chastise is one of my favorites too.
Hugs,
PK
Pity about the negative associated with the word beat, it is a word best thought than spoken. The thought of getting a good beating is very exciting. Whupping is my favorite to use with other people but I have always been fascinated by the Scottish word Skelp, though, wonder where it came from.
Prefectdt
“a thoroughly good beating”…….it means someting, but different to a “smacked bottom”. If you hear either of these you have an idea what you are in for and it will be quite dofferent. Words do convey a lot and whetehr we mean to or not we chose them carefully for effect. “beat” does mean something different and needs to be useed with care, the one I shy away from if “hit”, that always means something not associated with what we do, smack, swat, whack…….bu never hit
R
Hello Wilhelmina, et alia.
I am a fan of the word “smack”: it is quite simple and yet coveys all of the emotion which this activity brings about in those who pursue it for reasons such as we profess.
For me the power in words is paramount, I know you know this of me and you have been so kind as to comment upon in it your various acts of written praise of me, mostly on Curtseygirl but also in our private correspondence. My stated favoured phrase “Bend Over Young Lady” still sends a shiver of thrill through me, (it just did then as I typed this), but I also like to be told “You’re about to get a smack”.
Sometimes I wonder whether I’d prefer to be smacked than spanked. Spanking seems almost to have become an erotic word now, (indeed at a recent Discipline in Schools and Families seminar I attended the informal discussion came to a similar conclusion). I do like a good smack, and indeed I recall a line in one of your earlier stories about still life: “keep still or more smacks”.
Ooh Mina “my bottom hurts just thinking about it”.
When I was little, (a place we don’t like to go on these blogs), I was given “a good hiding” if I was naughty. (And sometimes when I wasn’t, but that’s another story.) I therefore don’t like that sort of phrasing at all: so there’s an example of words NOT to use around KLSE.
Bless, (or blesse if you’re French!)
KLSE.
Andrades, good point about beating seeming to refer more to the whole body, I hadn’t thought of it that way.
Hermione, yes it does have a feel of cruelty to it. Trim is odd in that grouping, perhaps it is more relevant to Todd and Suzy’s diet group. “I will trim you if you don’t get trim.” Confusing…laughs.
Radha, I think there are some contexts where it could work and let’s face it we are all different and therefore different things trigger desire in us. Buffet, hmmm…maybe it is accurate after all doesn’t spanking make you hungry? In a different sort of way at least.
Paul, I like licking as well. At least I meant the word but still licking in any sense could be good.
Janice, one corrective blip coming your way. I like anything with knobs on actually, and one of my favourite quotes from Blackadder is, “Pooh to you with knobs on” said by Mr Pitt (the younger) to the Prince Regent. Brilliant, you are so terribly British at times…grins.
PK, I think we are all interested and probably more than we should be…laughs. But, why not? Chastise is stern and delicious.
Prefectdt, here is a strange thing. I think it can apply to men better than women, perhaps because it is the abusive undertones that don’t work so well. It is harder to think of a man really being abused due to the general difference in physical strength.
Recidavist, yes I can’t imagine using ‘hit’ without feeling odd. It is probably worse than beat, though I am warming to that word a little more now.
KLSE, I agree with what you say about the word spanking and it is certainly how I associate it. I am sure it is becoming more accepted and, dare I say, mainstream to know of it if not indulge in spanking. Words are wonderful.
Hugs to all
Mina
To me, a “beating” probably involves fists — he was beaten up, e.g. One speaks of being beaten with a baseball (or cricket) bat or axe handle — or, yes, with a belt. But violence is implied in a way that spank or slap does not. I thrill to the word whip, tho (I am reminded) a whipping is more violent and scarring than fisticuffs.
Wystan, you make some good points, as always. Perhaps it is the fist connotation that disturbs me. I like slap very much though. Interesting, the different triggers.
Hugs
Mina
Hi Mina, new to your blog and this post got my attention. I always imagine a beating as something more severe and usually carried out with an implement. For me, a beating can be with a cane, belt or paddle, whereas a spanking is done with the hand. A particular expression I like is “I am going to warm your backside”.
Adam, welcome to my blog and thanks for joining in. I have a fascination with the cane, would very much like to try that out on a willing bottom sometime. I like all the different types of expressions that people enjoy as well. “Warm your backside” is a popular one.
Cheers
Mina
Well…
It all began like this, as a young Brit we moved to Wales and my best mate, Carl, well his Mum said that she would give him a “row”
And I said “what is a row?” Well she crossed her hands over her fine boobs and looked me in the eye and said “You want to know what a row is, Darren?” As she said this she tapped a slipper on the floor and smiled…and I said…
“…yes please Miss!”, like a good boy.
Darren, you incorrigible thing you, eyeing up your friends mother’s boobs like that. Tut, young men today. Now, is that row as in cow or row is in snow? Either way you paint a very good picture, I prefer to slap it against my palm for effect then against an agreeable male posterior for another kind of effect.
Hugs
Mina
Love the picture. I just discovered your blog from your comment on Dr. Ken’s. I’m going to add it to my blog roll.
pammie
RE: 14.
Oh Billy-girl be careful as canes hurt like crazy…unless of course the willing bottom you wish to try it out on is a man’s. I’m sure it still hurts, but that won’t be your problem eh.
(Young man this will hurt you a lot more than it hurts me!)
I’ve had seven strokes across my bottom and one on each hand in one episode, and then was hairbrush spanked across the tramlines. (You will find details in “Everything Is Good For You”, on my 360 blog.) I was still limping gingerly and letting others carry my gear the following day.
Then again, there is the “if it doesn’t kill you” aspect, and since my caning was for discipline and yours would be for fun…
Play nice.
Kaned Lady Swishing Enthusiastically
Pammie, hello and welcome. Hope you enjoy what you find. I shall pop over and check out your place as well.
KLSE, no need to worry, no real thoughts on getting a cane…yet. I have a crop that needs to be put to good use first. Why is it we think men can take much more than us gals? I remember reading ‘Everything is Good for You”, it sounded very painful. Our is for fun, which isn’t to say it doesn’t hurt…but that is the nature of the beast, so to speak.
Hugs for all
Mina